Figuring Out Forgiveness: A Week of Wrestling and Learning with TerKeurst

Good morning, friends.

This week, I've been deeply immersed in Lysa TerKeurst's "Forgiving What You Can't Forget," and let me tell you, it's been a week of wrestling, learning, and a whole lot of introspection. This book isn't a light read; it's a guide to navigating the often-turbulent waters of forgiveness, especially when the wounds are deep and the memories refuse to fade.

The Reality of "Unforgettable" Pain

One of the most impactful things TerKeurst does is validate the reality of "unforgettable" pain. She doesn't dismiss the hurt or minimize the offense. She acknowledges that some experiences leave scars that we carry with us, and that's okay.

This week, I've been challenged to confront those scars in my own life. I've had to revisit moments of betrayal, instances where I felt deeply wronged, and the lingering resentment that followed. It hasn't been easy, but it's been necessary.

Key Insights from This Week's Reading:

• Forgiveness is a process, not a destination: TerKeurst emphasizes that forgiveness isn't a one-time event. It's a journey, a series of choices we make daily. This week, I've learned to be patient with myself, recognizing that healing takes time.
• Feelings are valid, but they don't dictate our actions: I've been reminded that it's okay to feel anger, hurt, and betrayal. But those feelings don't have to control my behavior. I can acknowledge them without letting them dictate my choices.
• The importance of boundaries: TerKeurst's discussion of boundaries has been particularly insightful. She clarifies that forgiveness doesn't mean allowing harmful behavior to continue. It's about protecting ourselves while releasing the offender from the debt they owe us.
• God's presence in the pain: Even when I'm wrestling with the hardest parts of forgiveness, I'm reminded that God is present. He walks alongside us, offering comfort, strength, and grace.

Figuring Out Forgiveness: My Personal Reflections

This week, I've been challenged to ask myself some difficult questions:

• What am I holding onto that's hindering my healing?
• What boundaries do I need to establish to protect myself?
• How can I extend grace to myself as I navigate this process?

I've also been challenged to look at the people that have wronged me, and to try to see them as God sees them. It is a very hard thing to do.

Looking Ahead:

As I continue reading, I'm eager to explore TerKeurst's insights on disempowering triggers and finding freedom from the cycle of unforgiveness. I'm also looking forward to learning more about how to apply biblical principles to this complex issue.

Join the Conversation:

Have you been reading "Forgiving What You Can't Forget?" What are your thoughts? What insights have you gained this week?

Let's share our experiences and encourage one another on this journey of forgiveness.

May we all find grace and healing as we seek to forgive.